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Why Do I Keep Having Dreams About My Ex?

In a perfect world, going to bed would be a peaceful and relaxing experience, but that isn’t always the case. Even if you have a hard time falling asleep, dozing out usually leads to another world—the one in your thoughts. While you can sometimes manage your night visions in a cool way, such as through lucid dreaming, they may rapidly become a source of stress if you start worrying about crazy-vivid dreams while awake.

Especially if your ex keeps reappearing in your nightmares

Your ex is “back” (in your mind, at least), and you can’t seem to shake the thought of them even while you’re awake, whether your breakup was amicable or left you unglued and unable to get over them. So, what does it signify for your actual life if your ex-boyfriend keeps popping up in your dreams?

Surprisingly, experts believe it’s not always a sign that you have unsolved difficulties with your partner and/or desire to reconcile. It’s typical to have dreams about an ex, even if you haven’t seen them in years, and they are usually about something completely different. Psychologists and a dream analyst lay down the most common causes in this article.

Why Are You Dreaming About Your Ex?

Your feelings for your ex are still unresolved.

Before you get too worked up about this, keep in mind that these feelings don’t have to be romantic in nature. Maybe you’re still trying to work beyond how your relationship ended in your mind, or maybe you’re unhappy with how things ended between the two of you.

You haven’t given up on them yet.

This is still an option, even if there are plenty of other reasons you’re dreaming about your ex besides still having feelings for him or her. You may need to search deep within yourself to see if you’re really wanting you could get back together… and then decide where you want to go from there.

You’ve been sleeping a lot more than normal recently.

Many people are also sleeping for longer periods of time than they were before the outbreak.

During quarantine, many people can now enter the final stage of their REM cycle without a morning alarm (or with a later alarm), according to Loewenberg.

And that stage is linked to deeper sleep and the recall of dreams.

As a result, you’re not only dreaming more about your ex, but you’re also more likely to recall it. Ugh.

Specific dream scenarios are being researched.

If you had a dream that a recent ex-lover expressed regret or expressed a desire to see you again,

“I frequently hear from folks who are dreaming about a recent ex that the ex is confessing their love and saying things like ‘I truly wish we were back together’ or ‘I’m sorry,’ or anything similar. When you’re in the dream, and even when you wake up from it, it can feel quite genuine, so you believe to yourself, ‘Perhaps my ex really does want to take me back.'”

That’s what you’re looking for. You’re the one who’s looking into it. That’s you practising with what you imagined might be a possibility.

If you have a dream that you are dating someone who has abandoned you,

This is similar to what happens when people who have been in abusive relationships dream about being with their abusers again. Similarly, you’re having this dream because your subconscious mind is attempting to assist you in coming to terms with it.

If they’re dating for the first time,

So you’re coming to terms with the notion that your ex is going to (or has already gone) on with his or her life.

The takeaway: Now is the time for you to do the same!

When you’re taking from your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend

This frequently involves a recent ex, and you have a dream about breaking into their car or home and stealing things.

In this situation, whatever you’re breaking into reflects their mindset, which means you’re attempting to gain access to their mind and heart in order to comprehend what’s going on and what caused the relationship to end.

Conclusion

A dream is the dialogue you’re having with yourself about a very specific current issue that you’re attempting to problem solve. The solution to what you want to do about a circumstance comes to your unconscious mind before it comes to your conscious mind.

Because the people and events in our dreams are symbols chosen by our subconscious mind, writing down what happened, how you felt, and what memories and feelings you link with the things you dreamed about may help you learn something.

Over time, a clearer picture may emerge regarding what your dreams are telling you to ponder about.

The reward for recalling your dreams and writing them down in a notebook is that your problem-solving abilities will improve.

Give this simple tactic a try if you want want your ex out of your dreaming life for good.

Believe it or not, the only way to quit dreaming about your ex is to ask yourself to stop.

Just say, ‘you know what?’ when you’re falling asleep or even during the day. Enough is enough. ‘I’m not going to dream about them any longer!’ And it’s unlikely that you will.